Then and Now: My Hair + Reflection + Advice!Friday, October 17, 2014
I happened to dig up an old photo of my hair prior to beginning my hair journey. On the left, you can see that my hair was thin, over-processed, just overall damaged! I was at a point in my life where I had to make a change! Boy, I'm happy I did :) I made the decision to stop living in weaves and wigs and to start taking better care of my neglected over-processed relaxed hair! My journey has not been smooth. I've experienced a major setback and several challenges along the way; however, because of those hard times, I've learned to understand and listen to my hair - which was not easy. Many times I felt to give up and just forget this whole "hair-journey-thing" and go back to what I was comfortable with! I had family members who spoke negatively about my hair while growing up to a point where I started to adapt to their beliefs during any setback I had. With time, I realized that my journey, is in fact a journey! It's not a race to the finish line, it's a personal relationship with me and my hair! With that mindset, I was better able to tackle my goals and achieve, as well as maintain, healthier hair.
Many believe there is a "secret" to growing kinky textured hair - I did too! In fact, there is no such thing! I believe there are 2 key factors that you must acquire in order to be successful in your journey i.e. Consistency and Patience! There's nothing else. By consistency, I'm referring to, i.e. moisturizing and sealing daily. I know there are nights where you just want to hit that pillow (trust me I know) but with a consistent moisturizing and sealing routine, your hair will turn around and thank you for it! As far as patience goes, remember; hair grows approximately 1/2 inch per month. Hair takes time to grow. I realized that it's important to set realistic goals based the average hair growth rate (or less) that way you don't drive yourself crazy! Also, give yourself enough time to try out a product and see how your hair responds before throwing it in the trash. It takes time to observe and assess whether your hair likes or dislikes a product. Patience is key!
Every now-and-then I believe it's important to pause! look back! And see where we all began and to see how far we've reached. Don't give up!! The moment you're ready to quit, is usually the moment right before you reach your breaking point/miracle. Though I've reached my goals, I'm still learning and I love it!
Just wanted to share :)